Missing The Noise
By: Tawna Kreitzer
I recently moved our oldest son completely out of our house and into his new apartment. I’m so proud of him and thankful he is independent but I also feel sad. I know he is not coming back to sleep in his bed, because it’s not here.
My twin boys, age 20 are away from here, too. One is in college and the other in the military. Again, I couldn’t be prouder, but my house is quiet. Our youngest, age 11 is still home. I was playing a game on my phone the other day and he crawled up next to me and laid his head on my shoulder to talk to me about the game. I was afraid to move even an inch. I couldn’t remember the last time he had crawled into my lap, or grabbed my hand, or called me “Mommy”?
With 4 loud, rowdy boys around for 22 years, I never imagined how quiet it could get. Sure, I have time to use the bathroom without interruption, read a book, or go out to dinner without getting a sitter, but I would love to have a little more noise!
Time flies by so quickly. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the changes that come with parenting:
- Use your time strategically with your kids. Take time to talk with them and spend quality time together. Go to the park, take a walk, visit a museum or zoo, have a picnic in your backyard, draw a road on your sidewalk, etc. Just be together away from other distractions. Take every chance to show them how great a place God has created for them and how much He loves them. Attend church faithfully as a family and use the resources that they bring home each week. Take every opportunity to point things back to Jesus! Deuteronomy 11:19
- Be content in the phase. Every phase has challenges and it feels like you may not make it to the next. From the terrible 2’s, to elementary stubbornness to teen attitude. Don’t wish it away. They all lead to the joys of new discoveries, independence, and that “I love you” text from college. They may even admit to you that you know a thing or two. When they become adults, you know that you did something right!
- Have fun! Don’t take yourself too seriously. Take some time to have fun and enjoy the moment. My family isn’t perfect but we sure do know how to laugh.
I’m looking forward to the next phase with my older boys. The possibility of weddings and grandbabies is exciting. God is so faithful and I can’t want to see what God has planned for us next!