3 Ways to Connect with Your Spouse
By Sami Moss
A few months ago, my dream came true. My husband, Jon, accepted a promotion that allowed him to work from home every single day. As newlyweds who were dying to spend more time together and since my job is only part time, life didn’t seem like it could get any better.
The first sign of trouble came when Jon’s desk was on backorder and he was forced to set up residence at our kitchen table, making our one bedroom apartment feel even more compact. Whether I was preparing dinner or trying to do a little work of my own, we were never more than a few feet away. But, just because Jon was accessible, didn’t make him connectable.
We learned very quickly in that first month of our new routine that we had to be intentional about connecting on a deep level and creating space away from work and home. Even if your spouse doesn’t have an office in your home, purposeful connection is still so important. It doesn’t have to be difficult, it just takes a little planning:
If it’s your set-apart date night or time to connect, put that phone on Do Not Disturb and keep your laptop or TV remote out of reach. Jon and I have found that leaving our home helps lessen our distractions, but if that’s not an option for you, retreat to your bedroom. Make that space a haven where you can talk and share openly and without interruption.
Do Something Together
Jon and I, decided to start exercising more this year. We bought some DVDs and set aside 4:30pm as our appointed living room exercise time. This hobby doesn’t have to be a break from the norm; if you’re going to work out or cook dinner anyway, invite your spouse to join in with you every day.
Go to Bed at the Same Time
Even if one of you has to give in and go to bed earlier than you’d like, try your best to get into bed at the same time. This gives you time at the end of the day to decompress, relax and reflect together. Spend a few moments catching up or going over your plans for the next day before falling asleep.
Connecting as a couple doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does have to be planned. Take some time this week to figure out a plan that works for you and put it into practice.